Dealing with Your Baby’s Colic | Fussy Baby = Fussy Mommy
Ok, so when I had Peyton 2 years ago, it was the hardest 3 months of my life. As soon as he was born out of my belly via c-section, he screamed. He would not be put down at the hospital very long, and I could not have a moment’s rest. The only thing that made him happy was the breast. (Typical guy, right?) I tried sending him to the nursery, but even the nurses felt overwhelmed with the responsibility of Peyton. So they sent him back to me with a pacifier stuck in his mouth. Well, being the well read mom that I was, I told the nurse in no way was he to have a pacifier, because that could lead to nipple confusion and I might have trouble nursing him. Well, he was with me for five minutes before I stuck that pacifier back in his mouth, but that was not what he wanted. He wanted to nurse and nurse and nurse. I know, I should be grateful that I had a hungry, healthy little baby boy, but the demands on my body were exhausting. So we get home and he’s doing better, but about a week later, full blown colic set in. This went on for 6-8 weeks. All day, he would nurse and always want to be held. He would not go in the bouncy seat; he would not go in the swing. On me is where he wanted to be. I wish I had known about the ergobaby carrier back then. I would’ve lived with that on. So besides wanting to be held all day long, never failed at 8pm - 12am, 4hours straight of crying, as if he was in terrible pain.
My baby was not happy to come into this world. Was it gas pains? No, not in my opinion. Was it colic? Absolutely… but what is colic? There is some debate with experts, but in my case, I believe Peyton was not ready to be born; at least his nervous system was not ready for the outside stimulation of the world. The feel of clothing, the coolness of the air, the noise of the house; all these things simply overwhelmed him and ended up making him feel hopeless and insecure at the day’s end.
So I tried the 5 S’s from the Happiest Baby on the Block. Let’s see if I remember; suck, swaddle, shake (well not shake, but gentle bouncing - obviously you do not want to shake a baby), shush, and side. So it was really like a 3 ring circus. You’ve got one hand on the pacifier while your arms are holding him sideways and bouncing, all while making shushing noises. It’s quite a desperate sight actually. I went through a range of emotions and felt like a terrible mother, because I was very angry at the baby half the time. I went through anger, resentfulness, hopelessness, despair, guilt, and more anger every night. It was a vicious cycle. I really didn’t have the proper swaddle blankets or carriers, that may have helped. But I felt he could come out of this any moment, so do I really want to invest in these things. Take my word for it; invest! Now they have so many things out there that will help you. Let me name a few for you.
SWADDLE BLANKETS (I could never put these on properly, the baby would just kick them right off. Turns out I didn’t have the right blankets. You cannot use receiving blankets to swaddle.
Luna Lullaby 3 pack swaddle blankets - these come with a DVD and large square muslin blankets that work so much better for swaddling
Miracle Blanket - easy to use swaddle blanket comes with a pocket for baby’s feet and special stretchy sides to make the swaddle tight, so he can’t kick out.
CARRIERS & SLINGS
ErgoBaby Carrier - bar none, the best carrier out there. It is designed so there is no barrier between you and baby. Baby loves skin on skin contact. If they have an overstimulated nervous system, this skin on skin contact reminds them of life in the womb. They can feel your hearbeat and warmth, which translates to comfort. The best thing about the ErgoBaby carrier is it’s great on your back and you can use it as a front carrier, then a side and backpack carrier as your child grows, all the way up to 3 years old. It’s worth the investment!
The Peanut Shell Sling - this sling is sized to fit you and offers the baby warmth and comfort in a pouch like environment that feels like the womb.
OTHER COLIC CURES
SoundSleep for babies CD - this CD is actual recorded womb sounds which remind the baby of home in the womb and instantly comforts.
The Happiest Baby on the Block DVD or Book. Great advice on help for colic. We don’t sell this yet, but you should find a copy anyway.